It's really been forever

Well things have finally somewhat settled in my life. I had my baby girl in April in Ohio and i was apart from my husband for 3 months while being home with her. I am finally back in North Carolina and we are a family. I cant believe my daughter will be 4 months old in a week. It seems time is flying. She is somewhat talking, not so much crawling but if i hold her up she walks. We are eating baby food alittle. She still is trying to figure it out but will eat it, just her face is priceless. My husband and I just bought our second home so we will be moving in two weeks, so i have been trying to pack up while taking care of my daughter. So things here have been really busy.

Milspouse Friday Fill-In #29

MilSpouse Friday Fill-In #29

It's that time again! It's MilSpouse Friday Fill-In over at Wife of a Sailor. Head on over, link up and learn more about your fellow Milspouses!

1. Since most of the country has had nasty weather, what has your weather been like this week?

Being in North Carolina, its been mostly cold mornings in the 30's. Then during the day its hit up to 75 degrees. Today though has been cold and rainy. Suppose to be like that tomorrow too. Reminds me of Ohio weather. One day its perfect, the next its cold and rainy.

2. What is/are you best money saving tip(s)?

I do coupons, and make dinner at home most nights. Also when we go grocery shopping we have a list so we arent just throwing stuff in the basket.

3. What is your favorite vehicle you've ever owned?

I would have to say either my 2010 dodge Ram truck 4 door, black. It had everything on it and in it. For 50,000 dollars it better have it all... It had heated seats, heated steering wheel, air conditioning seats, back up camera, usb port and electrical outlet too, big screen in the front for radio, gps, and to watch movies. Tinted windows, and chrome wheels. When i decided to move down to North Carolina it was too much money to drive for gas. So i decided i would give it to my brother and have him make the payments. So then i got a 2010 Ford Edge, black, limited version. This has the heated seats, heated mirrors, double sun roof, back up system, chrome wheels, tinted windows, leather seats. Its pretty bad when the husband who made fun of me from going to a huge truck to a mommy suv, likes driving my edge to work then his mustang. lol

4. What is a question you'd like to see asked in a future fill-in?

When moving away from all family members, friends, where you grew up your whole life, Did you have homesick moments and how did you deal with them?

5. Fill in the blank: You might be a MilSpouse if....

You answer your phone for any unknown number at all hours of the night or early in the morning because your husband is calling you.

Where Has This Week Gone?

It's been a couple days since I have been on here. Things have been crazy busy. I can't believe tomorrow is Friday. I have been studying for 6 plus hours a night, while keeping up with house hold chores. I need more hours in the day to get everything done. Today I had class, paid bills, 2 loads of laundry, run dishwasher, take the trash out, cleaned Pam’s room, and put clothes away. Yesterday I ended up running errands after class, I bought baby stuff.  I love buying cute girl things. I am so excited that I picked up bedding for the crib. It’s so cute; I got the lamp, accents for the wall, sheets, the mobile, and picture fames. I will have to post pictures tomorrow. I also bought 40 outfits for a great price of 30 dollars. I am going to pick up bath tub, swing, bassinet, pumpkin seat tomorrow. After getting all those things I will only have to pick up a couple more things and I will be all set for her arrival. There are days I am super exciting for her to come into this world, and then there are days I am so worried and stressed. The many questions float around my brain. Can I do this? Will I bond with her right after giving birth or will I want every one else to do it? Am I going to be able to handle this? I am scared at times. I really haven’t told anyone about how I feel because I feel like there is something wrong with me if I think those things. While those thoughts are not every day, I still have those exciting moments and enjoying this time. I have a couple things coming up this month for the baby. Next Saturday will be the 3D/4D ultrasound, Sunday is tour of the hospital, and then the end of the month is pregnancy photo shoot. I’m looking forward to those things. I ended up talking to my mom and aunt about a baby shower, since I knew I couldn’t come home for one before the baby is born. We have decided to do it two months after she is born for both sides of the family. So everyone can see the baby and still buying gifts if they want too. Some of my family members have already sent me things which were so thoughtful and nice.

David and I are going to spend the weekend with Pam. We are going to take her bowling and to a movie. He is going to take her to the park while I stay home and study and get some homework done. I think it will be nice for daddy daughter time.

I hope everyone has a great weekend with their families.

A Random Update On What's Been Going on Lately

There has been a lot of things going on recently and will continue to get a little more crazy in the next 3 months. I would like it to be simple with the baby coming so there are no worries and things that need to be done if I go into labor early. Why would life be simple at anytime? That would be too much to ask for. The things going on are the baby, custody/court, moving, school, finding a good sitter, having my family here at some point when the baby is here; buying/making sure we have everything we need for the baby. When I think about all those things I get overwhelmed and somewhat stressed. I know I can only control certain things.

Exciting news I go next week for my 3D/4D ultrasound. I can’t wait to see her move around more and see more of her features in the sonogram. I have been having a lot of pain lately in my lower back from pressure. I have been using a heating pad and laying down which seems to help a lot. She has been moving a lot more in the last couple weeks. Her active times are mostly during night time. I have been getting kicked on my left side under my chest and oh does that hurt.  Only 12 more weeks left and I will have my daughter in my arms. At times it doesn’t seem real that I am having a baby. Lately I have been very tired. I took a nap today at 5:30pm until 8pm. I really didn’t think I would sleep that long but I couldn’t keep my eyes open. Tomorrow David and I are going shopping at Babies R Us for some of the bigger items we need. This is the first time he has actually said something about the baby and doing it. I was thrilled because I normally go buy things or if I ask if he would want to go with me, he normally says no. Since I will not be going home to Ohio for a baby shower my family has stated they all will be sending gifts here for the baby. I thought that was very nice but I still feel guilty. To make me feel okay with them sending us gifts, I figured if we bought the bigger items then they wouldn’t spend too much if it was just toys, clothes, diapers, bath items, bottles. I am also stressing and worrying when my daughter is born that I have no one here with me. I know my family wants to come for this special time, I just don’t know if they can and another question is when. I could go into labor at anytime and with my family being 11 hours away it’s not like they can jump into the car or an airplane right when they call to tell them. Another thing is they can’t stay for a long period of time because my parents both work, staying in a hotel cost money and they have to take care of my little brothers. I wish at times I was going home to have the baby so I would have my family right there with me and have the hands on help to get my through this overwhelming time. Going home wasn’t an option because of going to school, and having all the baby stuff down here with us. I just feel lonely and lost at times because I really don’t have anyone here. I know that is sad and pathetic. David has friends who have wives but he only hangs out with two guys out of all the ones that I have met, which only have been a handful. David is really picky with his friends, and i'm the opposite where I like to meet new people and have fun, not a home body. Anyway the one guy’s wife doesn’t like children and they don’t have children so it’s not like I can talk to her or lean on her for help. The other wife I am good friends with have 10 month old twin boys who she is with all day so I cant lean on her for those first couple weeks to help out because of the boys. Other than that the other wives I have met when we have gone to their house and it’s a conversation that night and that’s it. It’s not like I have seen them again to be like let’s hang out or exchange numbers. Its just reality sets in, that back at home I have tons of friends, family, and the support. Being here in North Carolina its David and I.

We will be moving back into base housing in the next two months. I have mix feelings on living back on base. I know it will be easier because we are getting a 3 bedroom house and right now we have a 2 bedroom condo. I am grateful that we have jumped to the front of the list because of being pregnant and so far along. If I wasn’t pregnant, we would be waiting at least 6 months to be in base housing. My dislikes about base housing is the drama. You can’t pick your neighbors and some are young, irresponsible, and gossip girls. I am 26 years old and I do not want or need that in my life. These are little things and I shouldn’t complain but I am, the no cell phone while driving, 25 miles an hour, closing base even when you’re out in town and if so tough shit you’re not getting back on base until they open it again. Should you talk on the phone while driving, not really but lets be honest mostly everyone does it. The 25 miles an hour I do agree with because of children playing and keeping safe. Its just I am use to 35 miles an hour. The positive things are at least with the house we have one bill and we don’t have to worry about paying it because it’s taken out of his paycheck. We get a bigger place, a yard for the dog, and that the girls won’t have to share a room. I just really didn’t think we would be out of base housing in September and back in to base housing a couple months later.

Moving right along to custody with Pam. We recently found out the mother has seen a lawyer and we shall see if she can actually pay him. Since lawyers will see you the first time for no charge to hear your case to see if they can help you and you can afford to obtain them. The mother has bigger issues than trying to pay a custody lawyer. Like I stated in my other postings is she is immature, irresponsible, and lazy. Not only does she have to go to court because of us fighting for full custody she has a pending DUI case that she got on Fort Bragg Base. Now this isn’t her first DUI either, and it’s not the state of North Carolina who is pressing charges on her. It’s a federal matter because of getting the DUI on military base. Thank goodness at the time she did this, Pam wasn’t in the car with her. This case was supposed to be taken care of in October because she got this DUI in March of last year or around that time. The mother thought they forgot about it and she wouldn’t have to deal with the consequences. Wrong!!! They give you time to get a lawyer and so you can pay fines if you have them. Needless to say when we got paperwork on it and so did she over the summer, she had to scramble to get a lawyer for this. With having no job, no money other than child support money she couldn’t afford to pay the lawyer. The lawyer agreed to do payments which then put the case on hold. Anyone smart would want to pay that lawyer first because if she is found guilty the minimum sentence is 2 years in jail no matter what. If you’re in jail, guess who gets custody anyway. We shall see what she does but we go to court in June for the final ruling and I’m 95 percent sure we are going to get full custody since the mother has no place of her own. She works part time at an 8 dollar an hour job. All her bills which are cell phone, car insurance, car payment were paid by us because that was an agreement in the divorce decree when David and blank got a divorce. So the x amount of years that has been paid that comes up to 1000 dollar a month of our money has ended now. Since she doesn’t pay rent where she lives or pay for groceries either and the bills were paid by us, she hasn’t had to pay for anything but gas and going out every weekend night until 3-5am. I wish this wasn’t all true but it is sadly. If I was her I would have busted my ass to get a job and start saving my money instead of going and blowing it on drinking when you have a child to support. In the end it’s good for us because she can’t support her daughter.

I have been back in school for 3 weeks now and things are going good. I love my teacher and the girls in my class. My teacher does a great job in going over the important things we need for our state test and keeping interesting since some of it is boring. I have a test on chapters 1-7 on Monday so I have been studying all weekend. At this point I feel I know half of the things I feel is important and would be on the test, so tomorrow is going to be a huge study day.

MilSpouse Friday Fill-in #28

It's Friday for another milspouse fill-in. Thank you to Wife of a Sailor, we have some more awesome questions for this Friday. Head on over to her blog to be a part of this weeks fill-in Friday.


1. If you were a famous movie star, what types of movies would you star in?
A love story. The fantasy of everything going right, nothing is ever going wrong, no worries.

2. What is a vacation you would like to take if money were no object?
I would like to go to Italy.

3. Did you have pets growing up?
I wouldnt count fish from a carnvial that lasted only a couples week a pet growing up. I would have to say no, there was 4 of us and we all did sports at the same time. Not only was it one sport it was sometimes 2 to 3 leagues at a time. We didnt want the responsiblity of taking care of a pet. We just never were home.

4. What do you do for exercise?My excerise is limited right now since I'm 7 months pregnant. I walk 2 to 3 miles every couple days. Every day i walk to and from class, i walk up 2 flights of stairs every day going from our building out.

 5. What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received as a MilSpouse?
Don’t get involved in drama. Do not talk about family problems that you dont want getting out to other spouses because it will spread.

Did You Have A Tradition Wedding Or Went to Courthouse?

I decided I wanted to blog about the many of us who have married into a military branch. Some of us had a traditional wedding and some of us went to the courthouse and did a JOP (Justice of the Peace). I am not judging anyone who did a traditional wedding or a JOP. I don’t think one way over the other is a bad thing. Since moving to North Carolina and meeting new people, in conversations with other women, it’s a question that comes up every time. I have found being asked and asking is everyone had a different situation in why they chose the wedding they did. It was due to deployments, baby on the way, their choice and what they envisioned how they wanted their special day to be. When I was being told the stories of which wedding each person had, it was a bond we all shared. I loved hearing the different stories and how special it was and how different each story really is. I am curious now in the blogging world who had the traditional wedding or went to the courthouse?

My story of getting married was the traditional wedding. I wanted to pretty big dress, pretty flowers, the Catholic Church, the wedding party, reception, all of my family and friends being there to share my special day. That was my ideal wedding since I have been little. For my husband and I, that ideal wedding I had been envisioning since I was little was not right at that time. The reason it was not right was we were on a timeline. We had been engaged for 8 months and had been together for almost 3 years at the time. I was in Ohio living my life and he was in North Carolina being the marine he is. I would fly down every two months for a week or more to spend time with him. I was planning the wedding I wanted and there were a few bumps in the road. The first bump was the church. I am catholic and David is not, not a bad thing because he was going to take classes to become catholic and he wanted to do this. Once he was going to take classes we were allowed to get married in the church, so I was thinking the first bump was nothing. I was wrong… Since David was young and dumb like men are at times, he got married when he was 19 when he first joined the Marine Corp. Short story is he got out of boot camp, went to unit, then went to his first deployment, came back and lived in barracks. Well he met a girl and in a month they were married. That lasted only 5 months. Lesson learned but unfortunately with him being divorced he could not get married in the church. So that was a hard thing to accept because I didn’t want to get married in any other church but a catholic one. The second bump was a deployment that was not supposes to happen for a year after we had been married. So the reception hall, flowers, dj, caterer, and the cake would no longer be needed for the date we set. Honestly when I heard this I was okay with this. I knew this possibly could happen and anything he has ever told me being together, it could change. I just thought we should wait until he got back from deployment and go from there. I wasn’t in a rush to get married because at this time we had been together awhile and knew I loved him and wanted to be with him that day to years to come. When David came to Ohio that weekend I shared what I thought and he didn’t like my thoughts. His thoughts were we planned this wedding I wanted so why wait now just because now we have other factors. After talking I knew he was right. Nothing was going to change how I felt now or in those 7 months when he was gone. We then decided to go to the courthouse. My friend’s mom made our amazing cake; we rented out a hotel ballroom on a Friday night for a reception for family, my friend Cody was the dj, I got to wear my pretty white dress, and he wore his suit. Everything that day was perfect. All that mattered was I got to share my special day with my friends and family and I married my soul mate.





So to the milspouses out there if you would like to share, did you get your ideal wedding and what did you choose?

My Exciting Life This Week

My exciting life this week has been eventful with losing my brain. Being pregnant and forgetting a lot of things are starting to get frustrating. Today continued…. I needed to run some errands after class. One of my stops was going to the bank to take money out. With my bank accounts still being in Ohio, I can only take money out at a certain bank and I can’t use the ATM. If I use the ATM I get charged a total of 6 dollars. Well I pull in and park and start to get my license and ATM card out to go in the bank. To my surprise I couldn’t find my license at all. I couldn’t even remember where it could be. I just ended up leaving and finishing the rest of the errands. I had to go to Wal-mart to pick up just a few things. All I needed was puppy treats, lunch meat, and flavored water, ketchup, and cereal. When I get into Wal-mart I couldn’t remember puppy treats, cereal, and ketchup. I now have to go to the bank tomorrow and Wal-mart again. It’s my own fault I didn’t make a list but seriously, I really didn’t think I would forget a couple things. It seems I have lost all brain cells. I guess I’m going to resort to lists and posted notes every where in our house. I am really hoping I have no problems remembering everything I have to do tomorrow. The next couple days my head will be in the books. I have a test coming up over chapters 1-7 and we have learned all of those chapters in a week and half. It will be very boring and something I am not looking forward too either. When I went to college in 2003, I never studied 5 plus hours a night on one subject in those 4 years. I graduated in 2007 with my major being business management and a minor in marketing. Now 4 years later I am back in school for a completely different field. I knew it would be a lot of work and studying involved, since it’s a 6 month program instead of 2 years normally. I just didn’t think this class would consume my life. Every day after class I spend 2 ½ hours doing homework/studying and then I take a break doing house work, dinner, shower, and then its 3 hours before bedtime. This weekend David and I were going to go out with another couple to celebrate the husband’s birthday and they were having a party afterwards. Unfortunately I will not be able to go because of all the studying and homework I have to do. I would love to say if I do poorly on this test there will be a next one to make up for it. In mostly every class you can do that, not this class. The book we are learning now is the foundation for the entire class. If you don’t learn the beginning you will be completely lost in the middle and end. There will be no way I would be able to pass my boards if I didn’t know chapters 1 to 7 and the other chapters in the book. So this weekend will be spent at home while the hubby goes out. So my life this week/weekend is pretty boring.